When did just being yourself cease to be good enough? When did doing your best stop being OK?
I was wondering this today whilst eating a well-earned, vegan, cooked breakfast.
In my work I have to help people through many difficult situations, often involving relationship breakdowns, employment changes, “failures” and other challenging times in their lives. You know, the run of the mill stuff that happens to all of us, the times when we all need a helping hand, or a kind word to help us get by.
“Oh, if only I’d done this, or been that, or bought the other, things would have been different!”
Would they really? I doubt it.
This may sound obvious, but you can only ever be YOU. You can’t be somebody else, and you shouldn’t try.
Living a lie is awful – it’s not living at all. It’s barely existing, playing a part like an actor, denying your truth, your reality.
You become a mere spectre of your former self – a ghost. Life loses all meaning. Trust me – I’ve been there, done that.
You did the best you could under the circumstances, and that’s all you could have done.
No one can ever do more than that. So why beat yourself up about it? You can’t change the past, and you can’t change what you did or how others reacted.
Chances are that you actually did pretty well in whichever challenging situation you’re still ruminating over, so right now you should actually be giving yourself a pat on the back rather than beating yourself up about your “shortcomings.”
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m all for self development and improving our skills in the workplace, in relationships and growing as a person. But let me make one thing absolutely clear:
You are enough and You are good enough.
Not everybody will see that, and not everybody will like you or appreciate what you do. That’s their problem, not yours.
Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. They don’t define who you are, they’re just opinions.
Your responsibility in this life is to remember how to love yourself, put yourself first and be OK with being you. Otherwise, what’s the point?
I see so many people searching for meaning in their lives – always looking outside of themselves to circumstances, objects or other people to make them feel better, to make them feel they have a purpose. Unsurprisingly, this never works, or if it does, then only for a very limited time.
The purpose of your life is to live it. To be you. That is all, so enjoy it.
You were born to be you, that is your job in this lifetime. To quote the inspiring Lisa Nichols, “Nobody else can dance your dance or sing your song…”
So please, take a load off and relax. You are already a perfect being, you were created to be YOU. Isn’t that amazing?! Without you the world would be a lesser place.
You are an amazing spiritual being expressing yourself in human form! You are already perfect!
Think of all the people you’ve touched in your life, the ones you’ve helped, the other ones you may have challenged and in doing so helped them to grow.
You are amazing, and your life is so important just because you’re YOU! Doesn’t that make you feel great?
The best part is that after all the restless searching, trying to find meaning in our lives, the answer was there all along.
Life is so simple, that you can sum it up in two words;
And so are you.
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