Love from the Other Side

As a working medium, something I get asked by a lot of people is for reassurance that their loved ones who have passed over are alright.

People worry that they might be suffering, or angry about unresolved issues or perhaps blame them for things that happened.

It’s understandable. Many of us believe in life after death, but without the ability to contact our loved ones, we don’t know if they’re ok or if they are cross with us, still holding a grudge or perhaps we worry that they blame us for their passing or for not being there when it happened.

 Young Woman Biting Her Finger Nail

I’d like to dispell a few myths and bring some reassurance for anybody who has ever lost somebody.

When people pass to the other side, they are met by their family & friends who have passed before them, and they are looked after. Their family and friends come to “meet them at the door” and help with their passing into the spirit world.

They leave any earthly suffering behind, and they will be happy and content. It’s something of a fresh start and I can promise you that they are alright.

They are always sad to leave us behind in this world but they are never far away, and they can hear our thoughts when we think of them. They don’t hold grudges about things that happened and they still love us just as they did in life, if not more because they are able to get a better perspective on things from the other side.

Our loved ones often try to contact us to reassure us that they are ok, and very often they will do this in dreams. (This goes for pets too by the way.)

This is because the conscious mind (that might otherwise block the communication or make you think it wasn’t real) is out of action when we sleep, so it leaves other more receptive parts of our brain open to communication. For example, you may have a very realistic dream about them still being alive, and having a lovely time together and wake up convinced it was real. This is often a hallmark of spirit communication through your dreams.

They may also move objects around in your home that might have been special to them or perhaps the doorbell or the telephone will ring, but there’s nobody there.  This sort of physical phenomena are less common, but perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. It’s just a sign that people in spirit are trying to make their presence known.

Another thing to note is that when people pass over, they often do it when they’re on their own. This makes it easier for them. I often hear reports along the lines of a person’s grandma was in hospital dying with her family around her, but passed away while they were downstairs getting a coffee, and they feel terrible for not being there at her last moment. Please don’t feel bad. In those cases your loved one chose to slip away while you weren’t there. It’s very common and nothing to worry about. It was their choice to go when they did, you didn’t “abandon” them, and they are fine on the other side.

If you need any further reassurance or if you have specific questions, you can contact  me to book your appointment for a session of mediumship in which I will bring through messages from the other side on your behalf.

You can never guarantee exactly who is going to come through with a message, but I have had success in pinpointing specific people upon request and communicating with those who are able to.

You’ll also note that I don’t refer to people who have passed over as “dead” because they aren’t. They just aren’t on this earth any more. I prefer to call them Spirit People. They are very much alive and well, just in a different form.

Please remember that your loved ones in the Spirit World are sending you love and blessings right now. Every day, every minute. They love you and they always will.

Red Heart Shape


  1. I’d never looked at this subject in that way before. I guess I’m guilty of applying too much analytical, “only believe it if it’s there” kind of thinking. The sort of thinking that stops you from believing these people are OK because they’ve not sent you a text telling you such.

    So, yes, thank you, I’m echoing the thoughts of the above by saying it’s certainly helped me… and I’m especially looking forward to throwing things off the shelf when it’s my turn to help!


  2. Thanks for this post, it was very comforting to read that our loved ones are happy and at peace. It made me curious how about my late ex-mother-in-law who hated me so much during her life, would her attitude change?


  3. Love this!! I’ve had a number of interesting experiences around the passing of my Mother, Father, Nana and other grandparents that i have no-doubt that they are OK on the other side.

    Funny you mention the random doorbell ringing.I sometimes am woken up early in the morning- because I thought I heard the doorbell ring…and no-one is ever there. I like the idea that it’s my Dad or Mom letting me know they are there.


  4. This is beautiful and reassuring. Just a few weeks ago I had a vivid dream of my dog who died. In the dream he said, “I wanted to see you, but I can’t stay long. I have to go back soon.” I pet him and he felt so real, then he (in the dream) went under the covers and disappeared. I felt his presence so deeply!


  5. I love all the reassurance in this post, especially since a loved one is said to be on her way out soon. I won’t be able to be there, but reading your words makes me feel like she’ll know I’m “with” her even from a distance.


  6. Helen, this is beautiful – so reassuring and loving! Two of the situations you describe have happened to me with the passing of my Yogi dog.

    Yes, he waited for me to be out of the vet hospital before he passed over. The guilt was excruciating for me, really, and I still long to change it if I only could. I know in my mind that this is common, as you have described it, but my heart still hurts about it, when I think about it too much…

    He also came to me in a dream shortly after he passed over. His amputated leg was restored and he was, in fact, running across the surface of a swimming pool as if to let me know that, not only is he whole and healthy again, he also can do *anything*. It was so joyful and wonderful and filled my heart with such love and gratitude.

    I love knowing that those who love us are here all the time, watching and encouraging and doing what they can to help. Thank you for the beautiful reminder!
    Hugs and butterflies, ~Teresa~


  7. Fascinating, beautiful post! My grandmother was like my soulmate…we were incredibly close and I have had wonderful vivid dreams about her where I can smell her, hear her laugh. I was even awakened one night in her house after she passed by a loud whisper directly in my ear (I even felt her breath against my ear!) I’m glad to read I’m not the only one because it is very comforting to still have them around. I adore that they can hear when you talk or think about them…I’ll be doing this more often for my magnificent grandmother! Thank you Helen!!


  8. I had so many of the experiences you refer to when my mom passed away – feeling crazy thinking she was dead after such a realistic dream (happened a lot in the first few years) and having her pass in the hospital right after I left to go home. But I feel very connected to her – and like Christie, can sometimes smell her perfume.


  9. I’ve had dreams with my grandparents that seem super real. So much so that I think I can smell my grandma’s perfume or taste some of her signature dishes. Sometimes I can smell the roses in her yard.


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